A reflection of life at the moment and looking towards the year ahead
I know from experience that it can be hard to find the energy to ‘reset’ and begin afresh when you are feeling the weight of everything. Especially if the days are all merging into what feels like one long groundhog day...
When we’re in this place, we often become hyper focused on our external environment. We look to change the things around us in order to feel better. For example, you might be feeling stressed and on edge because of work, so in your mind, the only way you will be able to find peace is when work quietens down or that troublesome colleague leaves.
What that means in reality is you are putting your internal world (your feelings, emotions and health) in the hands of others who, for the most part, aren’t acting in your best interest.
And so you remain stressed. And that triggers all other kinds of reactions and issues. And the cycle goes on, gradually affecting you more and more.
So it stands to reason that we have to shift our focus. We have to go inward and focus on cultivating that peace within ourselves. Of course, it takes us doing things a little differently and that can feel strange at first. But the benefits it yields are immense.
It’s liberating, right?
And that’s where we are a great starting point. Carving time out to come for a treatment is you saying ‘yes’ to yourself. It’s giving yourself time and energy. It’s bringing you out of your head and into your body for a while. It’s slowing your heart rate causing you to enter a blissful state of relaxation. It’s literally releasing built up toxins and stress so you can feel lighter and freer.
When putting together our marketing ideas for this year, it suddenly clicked why I hate traditional marketing so much. Most of it is geared up to stir up a particular reaction in you (shock, pain, failure, not worthy, missing out etc) to then show you how you should aspire to be/feel in order to be accepted and then how their product/service will do that.
E.g. ‘You've got wrinkles- that’s unacceptable- it shows you’re old and past it-you should aspire to be young and look young- this is what you need’.
We are so used to it, that we believe it. We believe it’s the only way.
But here’s the thing…
It feels ‘icky’ and it goes against everything I believe. Here’s why…
I began my training to become a counsellor at 18 on a person centred counselling course. It’s based on the premise that people are essentially good, that the client inherently knows the answer, and with the right conditions (love, genuine care, empathy, unconditional positive regard), people will naturally seek out ways to grow, improve and develop.
And that’s my heartfelt wish for you this year.
If we have learnt anything from the past couple of years, it’s that life is precious, we never know what’s around the corner and experiences are something to be treasured.
Please don’t spend one more moment believing all of the negative things about yourself, missing out on experiences because you hate the way you look or spending hundreds of pounds on the next ‘miracle’ that promises to ‘fix’ you but it only seems to add to the scrutiny you put yourself under.
Have the massage because you feel the benefit, enjoy the facial because it relaxes you and you can feel it working those muscles that help you feel better, get your nails done because you love looking down at your hands and seeing beautiful colours.
Enjoy the process of investing some time and energy in yourself because it all adds to the experience of you loving yourself more.
We have lived in a global fearful state for so long, we know all too well what doing things from fear and anxiety and lack feel like.
So this year, let’s journey together into greater love, peace, kindness, freedom and growth. Let's remember how freaking powerful we are at our core and let's celebrate what amazing things we can experience.